Grief and the Veil
Why Surrender Is the Only Way Through
Most people feel the disorientation of grief.
The dizziness. The numbness. The sense that time has fractured and reality no longer makes sense.
But few people cross the threshold where grief becomes more than pain—
where it becomes portal.
Grief is not just a feeling.
It’s a force.
A rupture.
A portal.
A paradox that shatters the boundaries between life and death, between presence and absence, between time and stillness.
Grief opens the veil—and once it’s open, you can’t unsee the truth it reveals.
Because to get there…
you have to surrender.
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Grief Doesn’t Always Open the Veil—But Surrender Does
There are moments in life when the rules collapse.
Grief is one of them.
It’s the immovable object meeting the unstoppable force.
It bends time.
Distorts perception.
Rewrites your internal compass.
Days stretch and collapse.
Minutes feel eternal, then vanish.
You feel everything—and nothing.
You are both here—and not here.
This is not dysfunction.
This is what happens when you brush up against the veil.
We often think we’re grieving when we’re actually in denial.
Still holding on. Still resisting. Still building walls.
Grief begins as chaos, yes—
but if we resist it, it calcifies into avoidance.
We spiritualize it.
We compartmentalize it.
We try to “honor the memory” without ever touching the absence.
But the truth is:
Grief only opens the veil when we stop fighting it.
When we descend. When we unravel. When we feel it all
But Most People Don’t Get That Far
We often think we’re grieving when we’re actually resisting.
Denial is the wall we build to feel stable, but it’s not grief.
It’s avoidance.
Grief doesn’t live in the boxes we build to contain it.
It lives in the dark waters we’re afraid to enter.
Grief only opens the veil when we surrender to it—
when we stop resisting, stop fixing, stop performing our pain for others’ comfort.
Only when we allow it to overtake us,
to dismantle us,
to undo the scaffolding of identity and control,
do we begin to feel what lies beneath.
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Denial Builds Walls—Grief Tears Them Down
Denial is cold.
Orderly.
It wants control. Closure. Clean endings.
But grief is untamable.
It wants movement. Chaos. Honesty.
It wants to be heard, howled, held, and honored.
And if we let it…
if we dive deep enough—
we reach the place where something else begins to stir:
• The silence that hums with presence.
• The strange awareness that what’s lost is also still here.
• The sense that something is watching, holding, whispering from beyond.
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The Depth Is Where the Veil Waits
Most people live their grief in the shallow end.
Safe. Controlled. Palatable.
But those who descend—who truly descend—
feel time collapse.
Feel love echo.
Feel the veil part.
Not as metaphor.
But as presence.
Grief isn’t just absence—it’s the imprint of something deeper.
And to feel it is to exist in multiple realms at once.
This is the paradox.
This is the threshold.
This is grief.
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Grief Is an Experience of the Soul
Grief will never make sense to your mind.
Because it’s not an experience of the mind.
It’s an experience of the soul.
And when the soul touches the veil—
what you feel isn’t just loss.
It’s the echo of love
that still exists
beyond what we can see.
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If You Haven’t Touched the Veil Yet
You’re not doing grief wrong.
You may just still be in the resistance. And that’s okay.
But know this:
The deeper you go, the more the world softens.
The more silence you allow, the more presence you feel.
And the more fully you let grief move, the more fully love will return.
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Closing Reflection
Grief is not the absence of love.
It is the transformation of love.
It’s love with nowhere to go—until you decide where to carry it.
And when you stop resisting—when you surrender—
you’ll feel it:
The veil will part.
And what was lost will become something you carry forward.
Not gone.
Just changed.