Finding the Magic of Your Inner Child

We often romanticize childhood as a time of innocence and wonder—and childhood is also where many of our unspoken stories begin. Our formative years don’t just shape our memories; they shape our nervous systems, our emotional patterns, and our sense of self-worth.

Even the most composed adult carries a younger self within. A part who still holds unmet needs, unexpressed truths, or the ache of being misunderstood. Sometimes, she shows up in the boardroom. Sometimes, he panics when someone in authority disapproves. Sometimes, they appear when we’re too tired, too pushed, too invisible. We try to be grown-ups—productive, composed, “together”—but our inner child doesn’t care about performance. They just want to be seen, held, heard, and maybe… to play a little.

I often tell clients: inner child work is not optional—it’s foundational. The child within us holds the earliest truths of who we are, and they also carry the earliest pain. I approach this work with what many call a “mama coach” energy—firm, warm, loving, and protective. We don’t rush the child back to safety. We create safety, so they can come forward on their own.

Recovering the magical child

I didn’t have a magical childhood—but I was a magical child.

Amid darkness, I made my own wonder. I created. I imagined. I found light where I could. That part of me still lives inside—the part that wanted to be seen. To be loved. To be told, “You’re doing great.”

But when those needs went unmet—especially in systems that mirrored early neglect—my inner child was retraumatized. I worked harder. I burned out. I confused productivity for belonging. And it wasn’t until my husband began inviting me back into joy that I realized how much I had abandoned my own inner playfulness. He didn’t tell me to push through. He brought home a Nintendo Switch. He planned trips to Disneyland. He queued up comedies when I came home depleted. Not to distract me—but to help my inner child feel safe again.

The Wisdom of the Inner Child

Your inner child isn’t just a memory of who you were—they are the blueprint of who you’ve always been. They carry your earliest joys, your most tender longings, and the first impressions of what love felt like.

In the Inner Council framework I teach, the inner child is one of the core Soul Selves we revisit again and again. They are not locked in the past, they are timeless parts of your soul that carry wisdom, information, and most often require healing because of their inherent powerlessness. One of their gifts is that you can tap into their energy not just to heal, but to restore your sense of aliveness, creativity, and hope.

This part of you knows how to play without purpose, to love without agenda, and to dream without restriction. And when we ignore this part of ourselves, we often find that adulthood becomes heavy, dry, performative.

Real coaching—real healing—makes room for this inner voice—not just the one who survived, but the one who still wants to dance.

Simple Ways to Reconnect

Basic Inner Child Work can be both introspective and somatic through guided journaling and body movement. Reconnecting with your inner child doesn’t require a major breakthrough, it requires intention, softness, and space.

Let’s slow down for a moment and check in:

• How do you interact with authority figures?

• Where in your life do you feel invisible or misunderstood?

• What childhood dreams have been tucked away for “someday?”

• Where do you feel most free—to play, to rest, to create?

A few small ways to begin to reconnect somatically:

• Dance to a song you loved as a kid.

• Revisit a hobby you left behind.

• Watch a silly comedy without analyzing it.

• Build a pillow fort (yes, really).

• Do something just for fun—not for growth, not for productivity, just for you.

Let joy guide you back to the part of you still waiting to feel alive.

A Coaching Space for the Whole You

My style of coaching is rooted in compassion, honesty, and reverence for the full spectrum of who you are. That includes the brave adult who’s built a life—and the sensitive child who’s still learning how to feel safe in it.

Held.

Heard.

And maybe… to play a little.

You don’t have to choose between healing and success, between tenderness and ambition. We make space for all of it.

Because you are still that magical child.

And you are still worthy of wonder.

They just want to be seen.

Held.

Heard.

And maybe… to play a little.

Let’s find the frivolity and freedom you’re craving — without losing sight of all the strength you’ve built along the way