Hi There, I’m Shayna

Before I came to the world of coaching, I held myself small, settling for a life that I thought I deserved.  I was a misunderstood child who was bullied in elementary school, growing up in a dysfunctional, yet loving family.  My teachers wrote me off as a daydreamer, I was weird so my friendships never lasted too long, and I never really knew where I fit in.  I never really felt like I belonged anywhere.  I was always way more attuned with energy in a particular space, seemed to feel the emotions of others as if they were my own, and I felt connected to the underlying emotional current of the world.  Overtime, I conditioned myself to be “more normal,” I focused on my studies and developed more stable friendships.   What I didn’t know at the time was that I was born as a highly sensitive empath and in conditioning that part “out of me,” I ended up losing a key part of my identity.  And still, throughout my life, I struggled looking people in the eye, because I was afraid; afraid of seeing their feelings and afraid of them seeing me and in particular my shame: I grew up in both a literal and metaphorical broken home.  My parents were two traumatized individuals who coped with drugs and alcohol, which often exacerbated even the slightest of issues, but even with their struggles, the grace is that I always knew that they loved me.  Even though I often parented my own parents, they were great teachers for me in the lessons of love.  Despite their shortcomings, they were beautiful humans, struggling, and deserving of love.  And, I knew through that realization, what unconditional love was. At the heart of it all, I believe in the power of love.

In fact, I love love.  I spent most of my young adult life in search of it.  Of course, I carried intense shame, which masked my ability to believe I was worthy and lovable.  So I searched outside of myself for the love and validation of romantic partners.  This was the worst thing I could ever have done.  You see, when we look outside of ourselves for love, we often fall victim to abuse, manipulation, and power and control dynamics.  This was what happened to me. I paid hefty prices for the learning that those years brought me along with complex trauma that still sometimes resurface.  After I spent many of my years chasing love outside of myself, I did find a way out of this love labyrinth.

Despite being in therapy and counseling, I was finally able to break this cycle and come out this Dark Night of the Soul through coaching.  When I was training at the Co-Active Training Institute to become a trained coach and working with my own coach, I was able to make an incredible amount of growth in owning who I truly was and what I wanted for my life in a matter of months.  I no longer held myself small, allowed others to take my power away, and I began to carve a path to the life I wanted to live, instead of settling for the one that I was living.

Even though I was always dedicated to helping others, it is in my DNA, I find myself at a time in my life where I am committed to supporting others to find a way to love themselves, because I believe love transforms. While my coaching focus centers around self-empowerment, healing emotional wounds, finding the divine within the self, and cultivating more love in one's life, I am open to helping a wide range of goals and needs.

I am both a student and a master of love.  Love is my thing.  For me, it is the answer to every question and it is the purpose of every venture.  After over 30 years of leaving that little daydreamer in the dust, I have reclaimed my innocent ponderings of the universe where I see the hidden strings connecting all things in the universe and they vibrate with the energy of love.  My mission is to help attune our hearts to hear the orchestra of this harmonic universe vibrating in love.

When I am not living my own dream of helping others achieve their dreams, I am spending time with my husband and our two dogs.  I enjoy activities that involve language like writing, reading, and madlibs. I savor soulfood like taking bubble baths, watching the waves crash against the shore, and a good espresso. I seek out silly pleasures like talking to plants and trees, listening to the singing of the flowers, and lingering at the sight of the sunrise and sunset.